The Influencer

“How did we get all these Chinese people?” I asked my farm partner, Clasina, when I landed in Northern Thailand a few days before our scheduled ten-day building workshop on our farm, Lost Boots. So named because Clasina lost a boot in the mud while attempting to install a pipe on the pond's bank. The locals called it the farm next to the crematorium. The Thais feared ghosts, so they were likely happy to have us own the property that hosted the crematorium. During the first build, we ran a homemade extension cord through the forest to one of the bathrooms at the crematorium so we could have power. Now we had solar power so we didn’t need to.

“Yidan,” Clasina said in answer to my question about the 9 workshop participants from China, “the Chinese influencer who did the video tour of Maggi’s house.” Maggi was our workshop teacher, a 77-year-old English woman with considerable natural building experience who had created a zero-carbon footprint home for herself. This house was the crowning achievement of her building career incorporating a self-regulating interior temperature, a rain catchment system, skylights made of car windshields, and a pair of revolving air vents that topped the two domes of her roof giving it a circus tent appearance. The house was in Chiang Dao, a resort area in the mountains 90 minutes from Lost Boots. 

Maggi operated a B&B in another part of Chiang Dao with a spectacular mountain view. Guests stayed in the many roundhouses she built on land she purchased. She sold the enterprise before building her final home on land she leases from a Thai friend Noot, who came to help us build. We also welcomed back our lesbian couple, Gege and Aleks. They, too, had found us last year through Yidan’s videos.

I wondered if, Yidan, did videos like the Asian woman who built a tea house from scratch and then served tea to her mother. It was so charming a concept and so captivating to watch her build with just hand tools that it went viral. (Later I found out her videos were supported by an entire crew of professionals.)

Clasina rented some serious tent pop-ups for the lecture and presentation that Maggi, an innovator of tropical natural building techniques, would present. In addition, we had Grant a gay man from New Zealand who met Clasina at a permaculture conference. Permaculture was a philosophy that encompassed sustainable agriculture focused on food forests. His last professional role was as the headmaster and director of an international school in Thailand. Upon their arrival, he gave our camper guests a tour and orientation of the onsite details, which included protocols for the use of the bucket flush toilets, bucket showers, individual solar lanterns, and tent set-up. 

Clasina’s husband Panya and our hired cook, Oy, were our onsite camp and kitchen support. A familiar helper came for the day to help with meals and clean-up as well as building. Drinking and cooking water, in reusable heavy-duty plastic bottles, was delivered by the case. Water for the bucket baths pumped up from where it sits, in the canal around the original rice field. Pumped with solar power to the gravity feed tank placed on the hill above the newly built shower stalls. The water was filtered before entering the tank and warmed by the sun.

At our introductory presentation, we asked the participants to tell us of their building experience. There was the usual range from none at all to having already built various tiny houses and cob houses. They expressed a desire for simplicity, for community with like-minded permaculture practitioners, and a recognition that the rapid urbanization of Asia was not for them. Some brought friends with them who wanted to do something different away from being online. 

One woman, living in Shanghai, came to get away from the stress of urban living. I later learned that she had a start-up business in public health and wanted to build a health and wellness center using natural building techniques. Her enterprise catered to companies who wanted to relieve the stress and unhappiness of their employees. This was an idea she adopted from a Mayo Clinic’s model. The Chinese government, who were now concerned with the stress level and unhappiness of their urban workers, were giving out grants to any enterprise that aimed to alleviate this stress and she had gotten enough money to hire 30 employees. Her phone cover was embossed with the message in Chinese and English “The Cause of Communism Needs Me”. That did give me pause. Was this more user-friendly communism doing better than any of our top-heavy non-profit organizations to alleviate social problems?

Another city dweller, one of the young men, tutored English as a second language mostly to students wishing to enter universities overseas, but not to the States, but to the UK. He served as an interpreter for his friend who had little English and also offered his talents to others in the group. It was a beautiful thing to watch this cooperation. It made me feel like I was in a Chinese movie but without subtitles.

Last year we held our build for women only so a man (whose Chinese name was Fafa so we didn’t know if man or woman) had to be turned away and wait a year. Now he was here going by the name Leo. Many of the Chinese participants had adopted Western names to better navigate this Englishness of the West. The English tutor had taken the name Ethan (in admiration of Ethan Hawk an actor) and dyed his hair blond. They were thirty-something, and so eager to help when asked to unload cases of water. As befitting Asian culture I felt their deference to their elders and to group harmony except when it came to food which they helped themselves to with little awareness of how much there was and if everyone would get a share Clasina complained to me. She soon corrected them on that matter.

On the second day, we were joined by Andrea, a German friend of Maggi’s, who had just bought land in the area and would be embarking on her own building journey.  

After the breakfast presentation, we proceeded to give our first hands-on learning task which was a demonstration of roof thatching which we did on the bamboo structure of the loo. Since I had done this task before I spent the time talking to the Chinese influencer on the surrounding grassy ground. She was in her early thirties as were most of our participants. 

She had arrived, at breakfast, in her white pick-up truck with the name of her farm on the side door with a painting of a bear figure on a scooter. I immediately noted the dog and cat riding with her. She was wearing white pants with cowboy-height brown boots and a brown flight jacket over a white camisole. I loved that she was so styling. She had come to document the build for her channel, carrying a tiny drone camera illegal in the States for privacy reasons. She also used a full-size single-lens reflex camera much like I had once carried. The dog was with her, now, quietly sitting in her lap. 

Yidan was from a rural village in China I would learn. Her mother had been a traveling seamstress who tailored clothes for the villagers before off-the-rack clothing became available much as was the case in Thailand when I was a child. She, and her generation, had witnessed all the changes to China, in a couple of decades, that I witnessed over the last 50 years among the Southeast Asian Tiger nations.

I asked her why she had left China. She told me that Chinese men preferred their women to be no taller than 165 centimeters while she was 173 centimeters so her chances of finding a mate in China were diminished. I remembered I had met a Japanese woman with the same dilemma. Most Chinese were not eager to embrace an off-grid lifestyle, I gathered when she told me that the participants that had come to join us were rare in the population. Just like my Western friends who could not live without a flush toilet, I thought.

Her English was perfect and I quickly realized her understanding of the world, in terms of globalization trends inspiring an off-grid approach to her lifestyle, very much paralleled mine. She was doing with her video blogging, what I was doing with my writing, telling stories of inspiration from her DIY projects on her own homestead in Thailand while, at the same time, acting as an inter-cultural translator to her Chinese audience.

I was wearing my handmade Roman sandals hoping to spark conversation around them. Before I left home I had re-soled them with nails to avoid using toxic glues. I explained this to Yidan and how I kept replacing the soles and the uppers because the leather insole had taken on the shape of my feet and felt so good to wear. She totally understood how leather can do that. Grant, spotting the turquoise laces in my sandals, began to riff with Yidan about how I could market my re-solable shoes at a bespoke price while offering different colored inserts and shoelaces as an ongoing income. I laughed at this business-centered feature of my money-savvy Asian compatriots. 

Yidan, was herself, a sharp entrepreneur and had asked for her cut for every participant she brought to our workshop. We charged them a fee of 750 Euros for the privilege of learning from us as we used their labor to help us build. I could see we were being offered the opportunity to collaborate with Yidan and I listened eagerly as she told us how Chinese parents were willing to pay handsomely for their children to get off their screens, and travel to another country to play in the mud and experience nature. I had been discussing this same problem of children and screens with mothers in my women’s group back home. How fun it would be to be the provider of a nature school experience.

Yidan was able to tell me in fifteen minutes all I wanted to know about China. What did their government tell them about the United States I asked. Oh the US is evil, she said. Same with ours I replied; it made me uncomfortable how much Americans were suspicious of China. As we wound down our conversation we were joined by, Andrea, our German expat whose English was halting but serviceable. The three of us spoke of the increasing polarization in each of our countries between Left and Right and Yidon quietly spoke the ethos of all of us as she suggested that the real work to heal our global alienation was to make bridges between groups. Hear, hear my next-generation mirror image. 

Over the ten days the more I learned and observed about our Chinese team the more they reminded me of Americans. No longer were they the ugly Chinese, of the previous generation of tourists, who had descended on Thailand in tour groups to stay in the large hotels that were built on the outskirts of Chiangmai occupying the town as if it was their own Disneyland. An American friend had told me she was physically pushed off a path by a woman from such a tour. 

No, these thirty-something Chinese were quieter and savvier. They liked American movies and music. They wore our brands, Columbia jackets, hoodies, sweat pants with stripes up the leg, t-shirts with English words on them, and a Chinese typeface that looked like English words. Gege had the exact same pair of black Hoka's as I was wearing. “We’re twinsies, “ I said pushing up against her shoe with mine. Her girlfriend Aleks came forward to translate. “She got those shoes because of you,” she said loud enough for all to hear gesturing towards me. Awww. They were probably made in China anyway. We had even both bought them second-hand from equivalent online platforms. This internet generation put China on the rise. They reminded me of Americans in the ’90s when we were still free to speak and share ideas and fashion, before cultural appropriation and the compelled speech of diversity, equity, and inclusion silenced and divided us. The ’90s was the golden age of my American Life.

The women were also competitive in a friendly way inviting others to show their skills and being willing to laugh at themselves if they weren’t up to it. I, too, was inspired to show off my skills whether it was with kung fu moves stretching in the morning or with dance moves around the campfire in the evenings.

One morning I came to sit by the rocket stove, next to Leo who was talking to Grant about his favorite music. “Tell Amanda what your favorite song is,” Grant said to Leo. “Imagine,” he said. “John Lennon”, Grant said.“John Lennon’s Imagine?” I repeated dumbstruck. This was just so poignant given the jostling of our respective world power nations, it made me want to cry as I recalled the lyrics. 

Imagine all the people sharing all the world. You may say I’m a dreamer, but I’m not the only one. 

Now when I hear China mentioned in the news I will picture Leo learning English from an app that showed the lyrics of songs in both Chinese and English as he had shown me. Indeed all these young people I met would flesh out my thoughts of China.

Four of the Chinese girls had already left China and were living in Thailand, one working for a Thai radio station, and one for an American NGO for the environment. We met a couple of their husbands. One couple lived on a sailboat off the coast of Krabi, one of Thailand’s islands. They might be rare birds among the Chinese population, but that population was just one generation from all the practical survival skills of rural living.

Our American kids were no longer competitive with the world I thought. They needed to get off the grid, get grounded, and dispense with these narcissistic messages of identity, brain diagnosis, and food allergies. It was getting harder to work with Americans on our teams. I wasn’t ready to run away yet. I knew I would go back home to California and try to talk sense into our runaway progressivism which was running us aground with bad ideas that didn’t work. What else could I do?